PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT 101

BOOK READING CHALLENGE

BOOK TITLE…….. The Big Picture

AUTHOR………… Dr Ben Carson

Review Presentation Day 8

By: KFUH Kingsley KAN

Good morning Beautiful people. Carson talks of quite alot today. Let me highlight the key lessons.


Our priorities determine the ultimate direction our lives will take and the unique set of opportunities that will come our way. Talking about priorities, there are 3 questions to have in mind:

1-when my life is over, what do I want to be remembered for?


2-What do I want to be doing five , ten and twenty years from now?


3-What do I want to be sure I am not doing five, ten and twenty years from now?


Be nice to people. Being nice simply means going out of your comfort or ego to put someone first. It’s an elementary concept that when learned , will open you to a jovial view of the world.

*Why do I need to be nice in my walk through life?*

1-I can get more done by being nice. People get more engaged with you when they notice you put them first in deed and thought, imagine using this in team work-how amazing the turn out will be.


2-It feels good. Forget about the popular believe that you need to play strong with a high ego. You will get more satisfaction and inner peace showing someone a kind gesture. It could merely be offering them a cup of coffee, greeting them, allowing them to take the lone space left in the bus, smiling back at them and what have you.


3- Everyone is worth the time.


4-Being nice is much easier in the long run.


5-I never loose by being nice. Our society considers being nice to be a weakness, but in the end it always wins out.

*How do you get to practically be nice to people you meet?*

🖍️Take yourself out of the equation. By this I mean your ego. It’s human nature to think the world revolves around us. It doesn’t. Our modern day world keeps reinforcing and educating people on their rights. Everywhere someone thinks they have the right to be treated like this or that. The food for thought here is, if we all want things to be done for us, who will eventually be served?

🖍️Try looking at the other person’s point of view. Ever wondered why you need an upper and a lower lip to make a statement? It’s coz 2 ideas can be moulded to a better one(just kidding). Think about it

🖍️Sometimes all you need do to be nice is give a listening ear to someone.

🖍️Put personal preferences aside.

🖍️Learn to genuinely love people:1 John 4:19-21

🖍️Remember the golden rule-do unto others what you will want them do to you.

*Being Nice-What it doesn’t mean*

❌ It doesn’t mean you should be controlled and influenced. It should be a choice.

❌It doesn’t mean letting yourself be hurt or taken advantage of.

❌It doesn’t mean always agreeing with others.

❌It doesn’t mean you can’t be honest. You can still be honest, but nicely.

❌It doesn’t mean compromising your standards

Thank you for reading